To whom it concerns:
Apparently there have been some conversations about what is going on in the Splonskowski household, I don't know why. However, it doesn't really seem to be happiness for us. I don't feel like I owe anyone an explanation but I don't mind giving an explanation, especially if any of you wondering would just ask us. My point in writing this is not one of anger or rudeness. It is simply informational. I do ask that if any of you have further questions, you ask us. We are more than happy to share our experiences with you. After all, we cannot do this alone, as they say "It takes a village".
After Aezy went to the therapeutic home, things got easier. Alot easier. That doesn't mean things are easy though. We have three very busy little kids. They are basically a 2 yo, a 3yo and a 4 yo. Even if Dailon and Chary didn't carry some of the baggage they do, it would be hard. Add to that the issues Dailon has, the fact that they are both still confused about visits and who their parents even are(us vs biomom) and you end up with two angry and confused little kids who act out. Yes, even Chary is not typical due to what she has lived. She will eventually adjust and be fine, they both will, but that takes time.
We are doing well as a family of 5. We have a routine and it works. We are able to function as a normal family, go out in public and have people over to our house. That doesn't mean that we don't ever get stressed. As I said before, three young kids are stressful. Of course we all have our melt downs and vents(us and the kids)...in a family of 5 that means someone is melting down several times a day.
Apparently there was some drama about the fact that we hired a babysitter. This kind of makes me laugh. I am a sahm, I don't get a break....EVER. I am not living a luxury life. This is a 24/7 job and it isn't just taking care of the kids...laundry for 5, grocery shopping for 5, picking up after 5, cooking for 5, I am responsible for 4 baths a day if I include my own. I have always been a hands on mom. We paint, we play with play doh, we go outside, We play games, do flash cards and workbooks... three kids mean these activities take three times as long, and then there is the clean up. Ayla takes dance and plays baseball. Ayla and Dailon both take swimming lessons. We have social workers, case workers and case managers coming to our house several times a month. We go to family team meetings. These children take alot of time. I am not complaining about the amount of time they take. I just don't feel bad about having two partial days a week where I can be without them. Yesterday while the babysitter was here, I cleaned and did laundry. I EVEN got to call my bff and talk to her mostly uninterrupted for 20 minutes! Then I showered and took Ayla to lunch before dropping her off at school. I had two hours to run errands before picking up Dailon from school and getting home. I paid the babysitter then Dailon, Chary and I went to pick up Ayla, We got home, they had a snack and then we went to swimming lessons. By the time we got home from swimming(at 6:30pm) we had dinner, did baths and bedtime and it was 8pm before I ever sat down. And THAT was on my day "off". Seriously.
For those who think Darren or I may be stressed and frazzled sometimes....of course we are! We have three little kids, two of which aren't your run of the mill 'regular' kids. I could go on and on about behaviors.....Dailon 'painting' with poop, running through the house screaming "fuck you" after a visit with his bios, head banging. I'll save you that nightmare though. Of course, since you all have a 2, 3 and 4 year old - you already know about the very normal stuff - constant bickering, tattling, fighting, not sharing etc.
I really wish that instead of being critical and talking amongst yourselves about our occasionally obvious stress loads, and how ridiculous it is that a sahm would hire a babysitter - You would call us and ask us how we're doing. Allow us to vent without judging us. Volunteer to get a pedicure with me or play a round of golf with Darren. Maybe invite us to a movie.
For anyone who is thinking or ready to say "well, you got what you asked for". You're right. We did. And we couldn't be happier about it. We love these kids just as we love Ayla and wouldn't have it any other way. You see, it isn't us who seem to have the problem...
Apparently there have been some conversations about what is going on in the Splonskowski household, I don't know why. However, it doesn't really seem to be happiness for us. I don't feel like I owe anyone an explanation but I don't mind giving an explanation, especially if any of you wondering would just ask us. My point in writing this is not one of anger or rudeness. It is simply informational. I do ask that if any of you have further questions, you ask us. We are more than happy to share our experiences with you. After all, we cannot do this alone, as they say "It takes a village".
After Aezy went to the therapeutic home, things got easier. Alot easier. That doesn't mean things are easy though. We have three very busy little kids. They are basically a 2 yo, a 3yo and a 4 yo. Even if Dailon and Chary didn't carry some of the baggage they do, it would be hard. Add to that the issues Dailon has, the fact that they are both still confused about visits and who their parents even are(us vs biomom) and you end up with two angry and confused little kids who act out. Yes, even Chary is not typical due to what she has lived. She will eventually adjust and be fine, they both will, but that takes time.
We are doing well as a family of 5. We have a routine and it works. We are able to function as a normal family, go out in public and have people over to our house. That doesn't mean that we don't ever get stressed. As I said before, three young kids are stressful. Of course we all have our melt downs and vents(us and the kids)...in a family of 5 that means someone is melting down several times a day.
Apparently there was some drama about the fact that we hired a babysitter. This kind of makes me laugh. I am a sahm, I don't get a break....EVER. I am not living a luxury life. This is a 24/7 job and it isn't just taking care of the kids...laundry for 5, grocery shopping for 5, picking up after 5, cooking for 5, I am responsible for 4 baths a day if I include my own. I have always been a hands on mom. We paint, we play with play doh, we go outside, We play games, do flash cards and workbooks... three kids mean these activities take three times as long, and then there is the clean up. Ayla takes dance and plays baseball. Ayla and Dailon both take swimming lessons. We have social workers, case workers and case managers coming to our house several times a month. We go to family team meetings. These children take alot of time. I am not complaining about the amount of time they take. I just don't feel bad about having two partial days a week where I can be without them. Yesterday while the babysitter was here, I cleaned and did laundry. I EVEN got to call my bff and talk to her mostly uninterrupted for 20 minutes! Then I showered and took Ayla to lunch before dropping her off at school. I had two hours to run errands before picking up Dailon from school and getting home. I paid the babysitter then Dailon, Chary and I went to pick up Ayla, We got home, they had a snack and then we went to swimming lessons. By the time we got home from swimming(at 6:30pm) we had dinner, did baths and bedtime and it was 8pm before I ever sat down. And THAT was on my day "off". Seriously.
For those who think Darren or I may be stressed and frazzled sometimes....of course we are! We have three little kids, two of which aren't your run of the mill 'regular' kids. I could go on and on about behaviors.....Dailon 'painting' with poop, running through the house screaming "fuck you" after a visit with his bios, head banging. I'll save you that nightmare though. Of course, since you all have a 2, 3 and 4 year old - you already know about the very normal stuff - constant bickering, tattling, fighting, not sharing etc.
I really wish that instead of being critical and talking amongst yourselves about our occasionally obvious stress loads, and how ridiculous it is that a sahm would hire a babysitter - You would call us and ask us how we're doing. Allow us to vent without judging us. Volunteer to get a pedicure with me or play a round of golf with Darren. Maybe invite us to a movie.
For anyone who is thinking or ready to say "well, you got what you asked for". You're right. We did. And we couldn't be happier about it. We love these kids just as we love Ayla and wouldn't have it any other way. You see, it isn't us who seem to have the problem...
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